Thoughts on “The Bigger Story Behind Jen Hatmaker”

Here’s a little info on “Jen Hatmaker situation“. This post is not about her, but a response to a recent Christianity Today article entitled, “The Bigger Story Behind Jen Hatmaker“. The other day on my Facebook page, I linked to that CT article with the following pull quote from Jen Wilkin, a minister at The Village Church in Texas:

The typical church organizational structure tends to segregate women’s ministry as an autonomous unit—a mysterious kingdom that operates according to its own set of rules.

Here are some thoughts on the CT article:

1- Church leadership has the responsibility of being aware of cultural trends and influences, especially those trends and influences that impact the churches that they lead. Jen Hatmaker has not been living under a rock- she has a platform as a speaker, blogger, writer, reality show “star” and spouse of a pastor.

  • I wonder, when is the last time that church leaders have looked at the bestseller list provided by the Association for Christian Retailers? Me? I NEVER have. Until today.
  • Forget the “Christian” market…how about the regular market? What music, movies, and television shows are those in our churches watching? How would we even know?
  • Ideas: Create a survey and ask what media people consume. Read books, watch a few episodes, give music a listen.

2- The pastor in your church will NEVER out-preach Francis Chan, John Piper, Matt Chandler, Alistair Beeg, Beth Moore, Andy Stanley, or any other pastor that you listen to through podcasting. As much as I enjoy listening to Matt Chandler, he is not my pastor. Doug White is. I belong to a local body of believers that I am called into to be an active member. And, one of the things I appreciate about Matt Chandler is that at the beginning of EVERY video from The Village Church, he basically says that TVC is not a replacement for a local church.

  • Idea: Stop comparing your pastor to these people. Instead, pray for him or her. Thank God for him or her. I read somewhere that God assembled the body as He saw fit. That “assembly” includes your pastor.

3- “The typical church organizational structure tends to segregate women’s ministry as an autonomous unit–a mysterious kingdom that operates according to its own set of rules.” This is 100%, absolute truth. It’s also not limited only to women’s ministry. This is a problem because church leadership bears the responsibility of knowing what is being taught in every single learning environment within the church. Why? They will be held to account for what has been taught.

  • Idea: Create a scope and sequence for curriculum and content to be used. Review everything. Is it biblical? Do we agree with the doctrine being taught? Ask “Why this?” and “Why now?” and have people defend their choices. Ask, “How does this fit with the rest of what we are doing?” Be willing to say “No”. Why? It’s your job, church leaders. Paul warned the leaders at Ephesus that not only would people sneak in as wolves, but that the wolves were already present.

4- Have an honest discussion about the role of men’s and women’s ministries within the church. Titus 2 is clear, it’s to make disciples. Yep, you can be friends, eat snacks, make a craft, shoot guns, go fishing or shopping. You can do all of those things and still make disciples. You know what else? You can do every one of those things and never make a single disciple. Just because someone says, “We ARE making disciples in our ministry” does not make it so. Look. At. The. Fruit. Are the people involved more like Jesus? Are they living Matthew 5-7 lives?

  • Idea: Sit down at your next ministry gathering and read Titus 2. Ask questions. Look at the fruit in the lives of those gathered. Challenge one another. Ask, “How?”. For every instruction given by Paul to Titus, ask specifically, “How is what we are doing in this ministry being faithful to Scripture?”

5- Know and understand that there were female leaders in the New Testament church. Priscilla. Junia. Mary. At least one of them, Phoebe, was a deacon. Yep. A girl was a deacon. We know this because in Romans 16:1, Paul writes, “I commend to you our sister Phoebe, who is a deacon in the church in Cenchrea” (for those of you who feel compelled to argue- Paul uses the same Greek word here that he uses in 1 & 2 Timothy as well as the same word used by Luke in Acts 6- in verb form- for “deacon”). One of the roles of church leadership is to contextualize the scriptures- we read and study them, then teach and apply them to our specific contexts. The role of women serving is something that must be contextualized. How can we ensure that everyone within the church are utilizing their gifts for the good of the entire body?

  • Idea: Ask and answer these questions: How many women attend your church? How many single moms? How many widows? And the big question…who is advocating for them? How does “what you do” as a church take into account the various dynamics of those who attend? When is the last time that church leadership met with the leader of your church’s women’s ministry team to learn about the issues facing females within your church? (Which means, that discipleship MUST be the goal- see #4, above.) What roles can women hold in the church?

Clearly, many (if not all) of these issues can be traced back to a healthy and biblical leadership structure. Leaders are called to shepherd the flock, this requires us to know our flock. Leaders are called to teach sound doctrine, this requires us to know scripture. If it sounds like a lot of work, it is. Which is why James says, “Dear brothers and sisters, not many of you should become teachers in the church, for we who teach will be judged more strictly”.

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Sermon Prep for November 6

Over the years, I’ve been asked about how I go about preparing a message. That’s a big question with a complex answer because no two messages or series are the same. Here are some of the obvious nuts and bolts, including-

  • prayer and guidance by the Spirit,
  • what I’ve been reading through Scripture on my own- praying through and studying the text using multiple methods,
  • what topics, concepts or issues may be culturally relevant (like my series in July on compassion as our nation was, and still is, embroiled in racial turmoil),
  • what is on my sermon/message list,
  • is this a “one-off” message or will I be in the pulpit for more than one week,
  • direction from church leadership.

With those things, and probably a great many others, there are other influencers on me. Family, friends, conversations, blog and Facebook posts, what I see on Twitter, the media I consume- music, movies and television, each of these things weigh in on messages that I prepare.

With all of that said, I’m in the pulpit at our church on November 6, just two days before our national election. And, I’m going to be speaking to that reality- my message title is currently, “Rendering Unto Caesar” based upon the instruction from Jesus found in Matthew 22:15-22 and Mark 12:13-17. I’ll be spending much time over the next few weeks reading, studying, praying and thinking about those texts. BUT…there are a great many other texts and resources that will be shaping this message. Some I will mention in the message, others I will not.

  • From the Bible: Deuteronomy 17:14-20 (God’s instructions about an earthly king); 1 Samuel 8 (God’s instructions about an earthly king); 1 Samuel 24 & 26 (David refusing to kill God’s anointed leader); Daniel 1 & 3 (faithful living in the midst of a government that is hostile to them); Acts 4 & 5 (the apostles and the governing authorities); Acts 22 (Paul’s use of Roman citizenship);  and Romans 13:1-7 (Paul describes the purpose of government); Ephesians 6:10-18 (who is, and who is NOT, our enemy).
  • The October Christian Standard:Can I Be a Christian and a Patriot?“. The articles are toward the bottom of the page and are well worth reading.
  • Author Greg Boyd’s book: The Myth of a Christian Nation. When Greg preached a series (that became the book) in 2004, he had over 1,000 people leave the church where he was the pastor.
  • Singer/Songwriter Derek Webb:
    • Mockingbird album, specifically the songs “A New Law”, “A King and A Kingdom”, “My Enemies Are Men Like Me”, “In God We Trust”.
    • The song “A Savior on Capitol Hill” from album “The Ringing Bell”
    • Stockholm Syndrome album, specifically the songs “The State”, “The Proverbial Gun”, and “American Flag Umbrella”.
    • Article: “How Should We Then Vote?

 

 

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I am Donald Trump. And so are you.

As most of us know, last week a video turned up of Republican Presidential nominee Donald Trump and Billy Bush from Access Hollywood having a graphic conversation about his ability to use his power, prestige and position to do what he wanted sexually with any female that he saw fit. Response was immediate. People were shocked and outraged.

On Tuesday, I posted the following on Facebook and Twitter:

Faux-outrage + feigned-innocence = Pharisees

Allow me to explain.

Faux-Outrage: We live in a highly sexualized and ever-coarsening culture. The other night, Anne and I watched the premiere of “American Housewife” which showed a man sitting on a toilet (pants down around his ankles, btw…) while his daughter entered the bathroom to have him review a school project for her. Think about that for a minute.

Is it really that shocking that someone would say what Mr Trump said? Are we REALLY that offended by it? I mean, of course what he said is offensive. And wrong. And inappropriate. And all of the culturally-correct things to say about it.

But…what have you said in your own life? What thoughts have you had that you would be absolutely terrified of if they were revealed? Which brings up…

Feigned-Innocence: The comparison game begins. “I would never say something like…” It’s brutal reality time: You’re a liar. And, you know you’re lying. You have thought things like that. And so have I. You’ve actually thought worse things, and…so have I. The only difference between you and me and Mr Trump is that he was recorded and the thoughts in our minds and the words coming off of our tongues are not. So, combine our faux-outrage and our feigned innocence and you’ll get…

= Pharisees: One does not have to be religious to be a Pharisee. Any time that we think we are better than someone else because we are simply too domesticated to say what we’re thinking or act on our urges simply makes us outwardly adherent to a law while inwardly we are just as great a sinner as Donald Trump. Or everyone’s favorite default comparison…Adolf Hitler

To put this all into a biblical context (I am a Christian, after all…)…

I thank you, God, that I am not like other people-cheaters, sinners, adulterers. I’m certainly not like that tax collector! I fast twice a week, and I give you a tenth of my income- Luke 18:11.

Sound familiar?

In a stunning show of Biblical ignorance, many Christians conveniently and totally ignored Matthew 5:27-28 and brought up Bill Clinton with a gotcha post that looked like this:

“DONALD TRUMP ONLY SAID THOSE THINGS BUT BILL CLINTON ACTUALLY DID THEM”

Then, a family member posted this deeply disturbing video on her Facebook page. Go ahead and take 2 minutes and watch…

As I pondered the events of the weekend and then saw this video, a few emotions prevailed.

Guilt. Shame. Embarrassment. Anger. Fear.

There will come a day when each and every person will face a Judge in this same way. Every single thing that we’ve ever said, thought and done will be revealed.

And, there we will sit.

After a few minutes of those emotions washing over me, 1 John 3:20 came to mind…

whenever our hearts condemn us. for God is greater than our hearts and he knows everything

It was in this moment, perhaps for the first time, that I understood this verse. While I am indeed guilty of sin past, present and future, and while my heart condemns me for that, I do not stand condemned…and you don’t have to either.

Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death- Romans 8:1&2.

What I’m realizing that these revelations of personal sin and brokenness are actually evidences of God’s grace. Of His kindness and mercy. His love. How?

Because they are opportunities to repent of our sin. While there may be earthly consequences of our sin, eternal consequences are worse.

One final text, Romans 12:3 says…

Do not think of yourselves more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment

We need to be honest about our condition.

I am Donald Trump. And Bill Clinton.

And so are you.

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On “Going to Church”

Fellow Christian and blogger John Pavlovitz makes an argument that going to church is not a necessity for the Christian.

I guess that depends on one’s definition of the word “church”. If one defines “church” as a “building”, that I believe John is 100% correct.

If one defines “church” as a “group of people gathered to worship God in community” than I disagree completely.

Why?  A cursory read through the gospels, Acts, the Pauline letters the entire Bible, will find the people of God worshiping in community. There is absolutely zero context for the worship of God and a relationship with him absent others.

In fact, we find the exact opposite. We see Jesus teaching in the synagogue. We find Paul and other church leaders worshiping in the synagogue. And yes, we find believers meeting in homes. And, while the location (except for the Old Testament) may matter very little, the thing that we consistently find is believers together in community.

To be sure, I’ve been in many “sacred places” outside the brick and mortar of a church building. I’ve found them while on a morning run, while listening to Radiohead (the guitar solo in the song “The Bends” is exquisite), in a morning cup of coffee and around my dinner table. And, I’ve worshiped God with others outside of the spacial context of a church building.

And yet, we consistently find communities of people, gathered for the express purpose of worshiping God, throughout the Bible. The Greek word for this gathering is (in English) ekklesia; it is defined as, “a gathering of citizens called out from their homes into some public place.” In the Christian sense, it is, “an assembly of Christians gathered for worship in a religious meeting.” Notice the phrase, “called out”- this is purposeful and intentional. Christians are indeed called to worship God in community.
Two thoughts:

You need other Christians who are committed to your spiritual well-being. They are the ones who will be able to get to know you and identify the fruit of new birth in your life…we are not good judges of our own hearts. Some people are entirely too easy on themselves. They imagine that they give evidence of genuine regret and repentance for their sin when in reality there is none. Others with a tender conscience are far too hard on themselves. They take every weakness and failure as evidence that they are hypocrites and false Christians. Being involved in a local church is immensely helpful for both kids of people- Mike McKinley, Am I Really a Christian?

My edits italicized below.

“Without this limitation (what is biblical), we leave ourselves open to calling anything we fancy a Spiritual Discipline. Thus, one might declare, ‘Gardening is a Spiritual Discipline (going to church) for me,’ or ‘Exercise is one of my Spiritual Disciplines (going to church),’ or claim that some other hobby or pleasurable habit is a valid Spiritual Discipline. One of the problems with this approach is that it can tempt people to assert something like, ‘Maybe meditation on Scripture (going to church) works for you, but gardening (playing with my dog, etc) does just as much for my soul as the Bible (going to church) does for yours.’ And the result is that virtually anything can be designated a Spiritual Discipline (going to church), and worse, it means that we determine for ourselves what practices are best for our spiritual health and maturity rather than accepting those God has revealed in Scripture (like the worship of God in community)”- Donald S Whitney, Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life.

I’m in agreement with John on this point- “we do not gather to sit with strangers and consume religious entertainment…”. Rather, we gather in community with people to worship God. And yes, while I can worship God “on my own”, and while we are to worship God with all we are and through all of our activities, thoughts and deeds, we are indeed called to be in community (see Romans 12 and 1 Corinthians 12).
The response to bad community is not “no community” or a retreat to selfishness. This is exactly the attitude and behaviors that Paul warned against in 1 Corinthians 12. The proper response to bad community is Christian community. And that design is described for us in God’s Word.

 

 

 

 

 

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On Pastoral Visits, updated

Thanks to this post by Thom Rainer, I thought I’d revisit the topic of “Pastoral Visits”. I originally blogged about this a few years ago, but have some further thinking on the matter. From that post:

 I ENJOY pastoral visits that allow me to know the stories about the people that I get to minister alongside. This post, then, is not about crisis calls, hospital visits or the “new to the church” person or even the, “I’ve been here for 50 years” person (and everyone in between). This post IS about the expectation that many in the church have that it is the Pastor’s job, and only the Pastor’s job, to visit someone.

And, the perception that, should someone else in the congregation visit in lieu of the Pastor, then those visits don’t count. What I am completely uninterested in is the posturing, gladhanding, baby-kissing and handshaking that is not really about relationships; but about the appearance of relationship.

To get this out of the way early, I fully believe that the part of the role of the pastor is indeed visitation. But, it is not ONLY the pastor who must visit.

As Rainer does, I will appeal to Ephesians 4:12, and then (as in my original post) 1 Timothy 5:1-16. As one who believes in the sufficiency of scripture, these texts ought to be “enough” for us. I’ll also present a pragmatic argument, in the spirit of having a conversation about re-thinking pastoral care.

Scenario: Perfect Christian Church has 100 family units, with an average family size of 2.54 people (2015 statistics), this means that PCC has an average of 250-ish people. Pastor Smith is expected to work 50 hours/week, which is 200-ish hours/month. The expectation is that Pastor Smith connects with 75 family units (only because 100 would be completely unreasonable) per month (Now, this is not written down anywhere, but neither are a great many other expectations that people place on pastoral staff members). Here are two options:

Option A: Pastor Smith plans out his 75 visits with a time-frame of an hour a piece. Figuring in travel time- let’s say that each visit will take 1.25 hours (how realistic is this for your context?). That’s 93.75 hours of pastoral care for the month. Divide that by 4 weeks/month and you get…about 24 hours/week of visitation. Divide that by 5 days a week and you get about 5 hours each day solely devoted to visitation. Since every church has the expectation that pastors will have office hours (because no one ever wonders why the pastor is never in his/her office, right?), these visitations would likely take place at night. And since none of the families at PCC are involved in traveling cornhole leagues, play instruments in the school band, sing in the school choir, participate in drama (other than at PCC), or play other sports, everyone is home and loves it when Pastor Smith comes over. So, Pastor Smith prepares and gives sermons, prepares and leads a small group or Bible study, prepares and leads staff meetings and equipping sessions, attends elder/board and ministry team meetings, deals with crisis care issues, and is then gone 5 nights/week, for 5 hours each night, out doing visitations. But hey, everyone gets their one visit per month, with some getting two visits. And, that’s the price of doing ministry. Besides, didn’t Pastor Smith just give a message series on sacrificing our time, treasure and talent? And while Pastor Smith’s wife and family resents both he and the church, they just need to have a servant’s attitude about it.

Option B: Pastor Smith has an equipped team of elders, deacons, lay leaders and the other staff members. There are 15 small groups consisting of 7 (-ish) family units/group. Each small group meets weekly for 2 hours. That’s 8 hours of pastoral care for the month per family group (8x more than Option A). And since EVERY family is involved in traveling cornhole leagues, plays instruments in the school band, sings in the school choir, participates in drama (other than at PCC), or plays other sports, they can pick the small group that works best for them and their situation (after all, there are FIFTEEN! to choose from). And even if they only get to small group twice per month, that is still FOUR TIMES the amount of pastoral care in Option A. Pastor Smith now has even MORE time to  prepare for sermons, prepare for and lead a small group or Bible study, prepare for and lead staff meetings and equipping sessions, attend elder/board and ministry team meetings, deal with crisis care issues and…bonus! He gets to eat meals with his wife and kids who will now be less inclined to hate both his guts and their church.

Option B is not only pragmatically better in terms of time and attention to people, discipleship-making and relationship building…it’s also biblical.

Some possible issues would be:

  • helping people see the small group as a primary means of pastoral care
  • communicating how the small group is a primary means of pastoral care
  • raising up and equipping the leaders to be the facilitators of these groups as pastoral care leaders
  • ??

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Die, Western Culture, Die.

According to the Facebook newsfeed, there was an issue last week regarding NBC’s Al Roker and the Ryan Lochte situation. Apparently, some people at NBC are upset over Roker’s direct (and true) statements about Lochte being a liar (because, he is). Now, I don’t know how much of an issue this really is, and, to quote Dennis Miller, “I don’t mean to go off on a rant here, but”…

Ours is a society that is completely off the rails. Some people (who clearly need to get out more and are likely off their meds) are upset that Gabby Douglas didn’t put her hand to her heart at a medal ceremony. Lochte and his pals are called “kids” and their behavior is largely excused. And when someone like Roker stands up and tries to hold people to a higher standard, Roker seems to be the one on the outs.

This same behavior is tolerated in the church. The church has been warned again, and again, and again about what Jesus and Paul both call, “wolves”- false teachers who are simply out to devour anyone and anything on their path to vain conceit and selfish ambition. Not a week passes that I do not hear of yet another so-called leader who is on a rampage.

To the churches that allow these wolves to reign free without accountability, Paul has something to say to you:

“You think you are so wise, but you enjoy putting up with fools. You put up with it when someone enslaves you, takes everything you have, takes advantage of you, takes control of everything, and slaps you in the face”- 2 Corinthians 11:19-20.

In short- western culture is a pale reflection of itself. The fall is coming and TS Eliot is correct- it is with a whimper and not a bang. And, christendom (NOT the church- the gates of hell will not prevail against her) is also on its way out.

To the failure of both, I raise my cup of Starbucks and bid you a fond farewell.

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Hey dads…what the heck?

In 2 Corinthians 11, Paul gives a long list of the physical things he endured as a follower of Christ (these things are the “suffering” spoken of in Acts 9:16); at the end of the list he writes, “I have the daily burden of my concern for all the churches”. Paul is NOT talking about the buildings, or even the institution of the church- he IS talking about the people that make up the church. As I approach year 11 of vocational ministry, I understand this latter “suffering” more and more.

My heart is heavy today dealing with families in which the father has simply jettisoned his spiritual responsibility to promote and proclaim the gospel of Jesus to his family and spouse.

Last night in our Family Life Small Group we discussed the concept of biblical fatherhood. Rob Rienow said something like, “as the father goes, so goes the family; as the family goes, so goes the community, as the community goes, so goes the nation.”

As we lament and lament our current political climate and choices, maybe it’s time that we, the church (the people AND the institution) take a good, hard, honest look at what we are doing and not doing to hold fathers to the standard that God does.

To paraphrase Paul in Philippians 2- “Does Jesus matter to you? Do you find any comfort in knowing him? Are you living with the Holy Spirit? Is your heart receptive at all to God? Make my joy complete and lead your families spiritually. Because picking up the pieces of what you’ve shattered in your pursuit of self, talking with your wives as they cry and watching your kids fall into destructive patterns is getting really, really old.”


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